The Voicelessness and Emotional Survival website was created by Dr. Richard Grossman to help people who have been deprived of “voice” by narcissistic spouses/partners, boyfriends/girlfriends, parents, siblings, adult children, bosses and co-workers. The website includes essays on narcissism and its damaging effects and a message board with over 100,000 posts by people who have shared their experiences with voicelessness and helped others deal with the aloneness that results from having one’s voice taken away.
For many people, including those who maintain contact with family and friends, life is filled with aloneness. Most important is that a person truly hears, understands and connects with you at your core so that you are valued and no longer alone. Sadly, it is the rare person—and the rare therapist—who can actually do this. If you would like to learn more about the importance of the relationship in therapy, see Richard Grossman’s memoir: Voicelessness and Emotional Survival—Notes from the Therapy Underground and also The Mathematician and the Teddy Bear, a diary/book written about her therapy by Sara Field who had a severe, life-long, life-threatening attachment disorder and is now married, retired and traveling the world. Since prior to beginning therapy at age 37 she had never attached to another human being, much can be learned about the nature of human attachment and the importance of the relationship in therapy from Field’s extraordinary and brave book. Please note, most people will have to put aside their confirmation biases to appreciate these out-of-the-box books!
Currently, Dr. Grossman is not accepting new patients. Three Massachusetts therapists he knows and trusts are:
Claire Shindler, Ph.D. Psychologist in Acton, MA.
Harry Sobel, Ph.D. Psychologist in Newburyport, MA.
Hildy Grossman, Ph.D. Psychologist in Brookline, MA.