Psychotherapy and Humanism
Copyright © 2009 by Richard A. Grossman, Ph.D.  ·  All Rights reserved  ·  E-Mail: ragrossman@voicelessness.com
Life presents many hurdles, some of which are too high to clear by ourselves, and when we stumble we are left with anxiety or despair.  Often, we are uncomfortable making our fear or desperation  known—we are similar in this respect as well.

I learned this not in any class, or supervision, but from life experience, though my personal pain and happiness.  Sadly, my own three-year early therapy fit easily into the “pain” category.  I learned much from it, mostly about disrespect and the misuse of power, and, over time, this has been exceptionally helpful to me in my work.  Trying to raise three teen-age step children when I was still in my twenties (a difficult task at any age) also taught me a great deal, especially about voicelessness--their’s and mine.  Watching my own daughter grow up (see “What is a Wookah?”) rubbed out many of the remaining abstractions of psychoanalytic psychology.  As a toddler, she boldly stood up to Freud and in a clear and compelling voice, argued him down.  This was a mixed blessing of course because in order to fight the managed care bully, the field desperately needed an intellectual base.  Long term therapy was suddenly defined as ten sessions, and I was constantly arguing with insurance company gatekeepers.  Was there still a career left for me in the field that I loved? 

Of course, there was more joy.  I watched my wife pursue a second, singing career with exceptional verve and, yes, voice.   She is more satisfied with life than anyone I know, and I have learned a great deal from her.  But I also watched my mother (also a singer) die of lymphoma, and my father suffer as a result.  I know that grief is the worst that life has to offer, for which there is no remedy save time and an ear.  Of course this leaves me feeling anxious about the future.  The threat of death nips constantly at our heels.  My beloved Golden Retriever, Watson, who is now grumbling

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